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Lady Astor Was a Victim of Brain Loss and Elder Abuse

August 12, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

Lady Brooke Astor was a beloved philanthropist of New York’s high society. She died in 2007, leaving an estate valued at $185 million. Unfortunately, Alzheimer’s disease stole her later years. As a result, she fell victim to devastating elder abuse from her son, Anthony Astor.

Taking advantage of her condition, he convinced her she was going broke. He sold valuable pieces from her art collection and funneled nearly $1 million into his personal projects. He also reduced her care, resulting in severe neglect. She spent her days in a filthy nightgown. Her luxury apartment fell into ruin.

Money Is No Protection Against Elder Abuse

Lady Astor’s grandson, Philip Marshall, brought charges against his father, Anthony Astor, for his abusive acts. After the 6-month trial, investigations revealed that Anthony had, indeed, stolen $60 million from his mother’s estate. With her impaired mental abilities, it was easy to persuade his mother to make periodic, favorable adjustments to her will.

As a result of these investigations, Philip Marshall has become an outspoken advocate in the fight against elder abuse. He remarked, “When I was trying to protect my grandmother, I thought the financial exploitation was the least of the problems. It ended up finances were the key.”

His organization, Beyond Brooke, is dedicated to empower and educate seniors to help them protect themselves from the financial abuse his grandmother suffered. Marshall’s biggest piece of advice?

“It’s back to engaging in relationships and making sure you’ve got people in your life who will watch your back. It sometimes takes just one person or three or five people in your life who are checking in—and cultivating those relationships.”

Have the Conversation

As Philip Marshall recommends, it’s important to have these discussions to properly plan for care. Lady Astor’s family and advisors failed to protect her. While your own estate may only be a fraction of her original value, the consequences of neglect cross all social and economic borders.

An easy starting point is to research options through long term care insurance (LTCi) so your needs are properly addressed. Click here to receive your free no-obligation quote on your own LTCi policy.

Actress, Director Penny Marshall Also A Victim of Brain Loss

June 24, 2019 by Honey Leveen 1 Comment

I’ve been writing a lot lately on the devastating (and often silent) effects of Brain Loss that often strike in our later years. The Journals of Gerontology published the results of a study on age-related brain changes and how these changes can leave the subject vulnerable to financial exploitation. According to their findings, “Approximately 1 in 20 adults can be expected to experience some form of financial exploitation past the age of 60, an incidence rate eclipsing many age-related diseases.” This financial exploitation is a result of impaired financial judgment. Which brings us to the final years of the life of Penny Marshall.

Penny Marshall Was Unprotected

Beloved actress and director, Penny Marshall, died in 2018, from complications from diabetes. It is also known that she had a bout with lung cancer which ultimately metastasized in her brain. Fortunately, both the lung and brain cancer went into remission after 2 years of treatment.

In a recent interview, Anjelica Huston shared about her friendship with Marshall, describing the peculiar way the director spent her nights. “Her rooms were freezing. Like air-conditioned, way up. She stayed up all night, followed QVC for beanbag dolls and stuff. She had this collection of sports memorabilia. She had a sort of museum in her basement full of signed baseballs and Lakers shirts. I just couldn’t relate. And also, frankly, she took a lot of coke.”

It became too much for Huston and she stopped visiting her friend.

Who Will Watch Out For You?

Penny Marshall’s final years contains some indications of erratic spending habits and other unusual behavior. There were no controls in place to protect her from herself or to ensure that she was receiving the best possible medical care to properly manage her diabetes.

I will continue to beat the drum, reminding you how important it is to have a clear plan in place that provides for your care and protects your interests. It may be difficult to acknowledge your future need for assistance, but denying the liklihood doesn’t improve your odds. In fact, it actually increases your risk.

The time to make these plans is NOW, while you are still thinking clearly. Penny Marshall failed to plan and, by default, planned to fail.

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“Brains and Losses” – Financial Scams on Seniors

May 28, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

NPR’s Marketplace has done a thoughtful, engaging investigative series on age-associated financial vulnerability, called “Brains and Losses”. You can click here to listen to the 5-part audio series (Don’t worry — each episode is only about 5 minutes long!). It’s an interesting look at new research involving why we are more prone to financial scams as we age.

Even back in 2015, a well-respected and often-cited study found that Americans lose over $36 billion each year to “elder financial abuse”. The study breaks down those losses in 3 major areas:

$17 billion from exploitation – Seniors are led to making poor decisions based on confusing language or high sales pressure.
$12.8 billion from fraud – Seniors fall prey to identity theft or cons to send strangers money.
$6.7 billion from abuse of trust – Seniors who rely on the guidance of close friends, family or other advisors are deceived by the relationship and bilked out of their money.

It seems obvious that as age-related cognitive abilities decline, seniors become an easier target. In fact, I’ve written about this before. One of the early signs of oncoming cognitive impairment is falling for financial scams.

I’ve Seen This Too Often

I’ve observed the warning signs with my own clients and prospective clients. They ask the same questions again and again. They don’t seem to be absorbing the answers I give to their questions. Sometimes they drop their long-term care insurance (LTCi) policies. In a panic, they – or their kids – later call me, wanting to reinstate the policy. This is not a change of heart, but recognizing that a poor decision was made. And it is heartbreaking to me.

As I began listening to the 5-part audio series, I anticipated I’d be hearing more of these kind of stories. Boy, was I wrong. The series examines and explains so much more!

It turns out that you don’t have to be cognitively impaired to fall victim to these scams. There are a host of other factors that also sets someone up for these traps. Financial vulnerability may also be associated with loneliness, isolation, and impaired physical health.

Have the Conversation

I’ve shared the importance of having the difficult conversations with parents about care in their later years. Talking about financial management is a big part of this.

Here are 4 suggested questions that can get the ball rolling:

As you get older, what are your spending priorities?
Do you know what a scam is? What would you do when a stranger calls you, asking for money?
Who do you trust to help you with your finances? How often do you want to talk to them?
If you start to start to get a little shaky around these decisions, what do you want us to do for you?

The bottom line: be proactive. Protect yourself, protect your family, by having explicit conversations, now!

A great way to protect the future financial and medical options for you or someone you love is through long-term care insurance (LTCi). To receive your own free, customized no-obligation quote, click here. Let’s start this conversation!

Brain Decline + Failure to Communicate = Failure Formula

July 1, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

If you are a regular reader of my weekly blog posts, you’ll notice the recurring theme of Brain Loss. While the condition isn’t avoidable, many of the resulting consequences can be prevented. It just takes a little planning and some open conversations. Otherwise, you are building a path to failure.

Here’s an email I recently received from a concerned service provider:

“Hi Honey,

You have been so helpful in the past and I always think of you when a question about LTC comes up!

We have a former patient who just moved to New York to be closer to her daughter. She is 91 years old and has dementia. She has had a LTC policy, but without her daughter knowing, she let her policy lapse. The LTC insurance company is asking for documentation of her mental status. Our doctor only saw her for general medical ailments and never formally evaluated her memory, so we have no test scores to provide. He wrote a letter of incapacity but the insurance company is not accepting that.

This woman stands to lose hundreds of thousands of dollars of coverage. Do you have any suggestions for them?”

I receive emails and distressed phone calls like this too often and they are heartbreaking. The families reaching out to me are in a state of emergency and dealing with unbelievable levels of stress. A lot of this stress is a result of failure to plan properly.

I’m assuming that the mother’s health has seriously declined, since the family had her moved at 91 years old to a new state. She like has, at minimum, mid-stage dementia. This means her dementia is at a point where it’s obvious and she needs lots of supervision.

Avoiding the Preventable Failure

Fortunately, most long term care insurance (LTCi) policies now include language allowing policyholders to reinstate their coverage and get their claim paid within 6 months of policy lapse. If she’s lucky, the mother qualifies for reinstatement and her claims can be paid.

The mother will need to have neurological testing to prove her dementia. Once proven, her choice to cancel her coverage could be reversed, as she was not mentally capable of making this serious decision.

Some Reasonable Questions

Does the daughter have a copy of her mother’s LTCi policy? When monitoring the health and care of our parents, it is critical to have the documentation and be familiar with the terms. Understand what options are available before you need to use them
If the policy lapsed from nonpayment, does the insurance company know to automatically notify the daughter? This is a standard part of every LTCi application. Pay attention and remember to complete it. There is good news: this appointment can be added or changed at any time, as long as the policy is in good standing.
Did the family ever have the conversation with their mother about what kind of care she wanted to receive once she was unable to make these decisions on her own?

This tragedy occurred because of the family’s failure to explore and document their mother’s wishes and desires ahead of time, in a frank manner.

Take a moment to explore how you can plan for an easier future for yourself or someone you love. Click here to receive your free, no-obligation quote for long term care insurance.

The High Cost of Avoidance and Denial

January 20, 2020 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

Over the years, I’ve written multiple blogs posts about the importance of creating a solid long term care plan to address your late life wishes. Make the plan and share it with your family. And yet, time after time, I read horror stories about unnecessary suffering, neglect and even death because they never had “the conversation”. As if avoiding this important discussion gives them some artificial sense of control and safety. There is a cost of avoidance and it’s very high.

“I’d rather die than talk about this.”

The truth is that once chronic health problems arise, your ability to make good decisions often decreases. This is partly because your brain may have reduced cognitive powers. And also because making good choices becomes harder when you’re feeling panicked with fewer options. It’s really hard to see the big picture when it feels like your world is getting smaller.

Mr. & Mrs. Shaver Paid the Cost of Avoidance

As reported in the New York Times (Dec 2019), their love story is the thing movies are made of. A romantic courtship and a loving marriage of 60 years. Unfortunately, his wife starting showing signs of dementia. Even though his children encouraged hiring home care help, Mr. Shaver refused any discussion. “Mind your own business. I’m taking care of it.”

He had ample savings for their retirement, so we know the cost of hiring help was not the issue. As the sole caregiver to his wife, he was obviously aware of her declining state of mind. However, he was unwilling to make any move that would improve their environment.

It must have broken his heart to see the love of his life disappear from his life. She no longer recognized him or their daughters. One day, while she was asleep, her loving husband laid down in bed next to her and shot his wife. And then shot himself.

The Time to Plan is Now

I’ve been helping people create these plans for 30 years. One thing I’ve learned is that having such a plan in place provides a peace of mind and increases quality of living. Without the comfort of a strategy, the fear of aging only grows over the years. As you age, the concerns over injury (falling in the shower, tripping over furniture, dizziness from medications) can contribute to mounting fears.

Once the fear takes hold, it becomes harder to make clear and thoughtful decisions. I’ve done several blogs on age-related brain loss and cognitive decline.

For most of us, whether we’re middle class or more affluent, owning long term care insurance (LTCi) is critical for ensuring dignity, options, and access to quality long term care. But it’s not enough. You must have ongoing, difficult conversations with your family so everyone understands the outcome you desire.

Click here to receive a free, no-obligation quote for your own LTCi coverage. Your family will thank you.

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