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LTCi Pays – Have the Conversation Now!

March 3, 2016 by Honey Leave a Comment

The following piece was authored and is re-published here with the permission of my dear friend and colleague Tobe Gerard.

Tobe makes two points. The first is that long-term care insurance (LTCi) policies are normally purchased many years in advance of being needed. We are now seeing “the tip of the iceberg” of claimants who need to collect from their LTCi. For the foreseeable future, we should see annual increases in the number of claims being filed and the amount of money being paid out for LTC.

The second point Tobe is making is that it is typically a son or daughter who assists with the claim. LTCi claims are not onerous, but policyholders are typically not able to manage them alone. Letting kids and other trusted individuals know you own LTCi is sometimes difficult, but worth it. Knowing a parent owns LTCi proves to be a balm and a source of extra piece of mind and security for all involved.

Here is Tobe’s excellent blog:

According the the American Association for Long-Term Care Insurance, long-term care insurance (LTCi) companies paid $8.15 billion in claim benefits to 260,000 policyholders in 2015. That number is 4% more than what was paid out in 2014. We are all living longer, and though your clients hope to never have to use their policies, the good news is that policyholders and their families are benefiting from owning this important insurance protection. When the rubber hits the road, LTCi policies are paying out!

With that in mind, many advisors encourage their clients to have “the long-term care conversation” with their adult children. It’s not an easy conversation, but it is an important one. Having this conversation early allows adult children to know that their parents have thought things through and have a plan in place. Among other things, breaking the ice by having this conversation early allows adult children to know their parents own LTCi policies. The reality is that in most instances it will be the adult children who will be involved with filing the initial LTCi claim and, in many cases, supervising the care that will be required over time. Adult children want to learn what their parents have in mind. Owning a LTCi care policy should never be kept a secret!”

Caring for Elder Orphans

October 8, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

Care for ourselves or our parents is often provided by family members. In fact, 80% of home care is given by one or more members of the family. But what happens if there isn’t family available? No spouse, no children nearby (or none at all) — this is the world of Elder Orphans.

They may live full and active lives. But when it comes to making plans for this chapter of their lives, most of this growing population is dangerously unprepared. This is a tricky segment of people to even properly identify, so most reports are subjective. Still, this is still an important aging phenomenon that needs our attention.

Elder Orphans are Aging Alone

Let’s start by understanding how one becomes part of this growing category of seniors. For starters, understand that it can be totally voluntary. For example, a person may be happily single in their later years, thoroughly enjoying the freedom and privacy living alone affords them. Or they chose to build a life without children.

On the other hand, this may not be the life they originally signed up for. The death of a lifelong spouse or a divorce can leave someone surprisingly single when they need someone most. Even if they have children, they may live too far away to provide regular, consistent home care. Sometimes, parents are estranged from their kids.

As you can see, a variety of circumstances can lead to becoming an elder orphan. Regardless of how they got here, there are specific and unique challenges they’ll have to manage. And, like so many long term care issues, ignoring them doesn’t change the needs they create down the road.

Financial Insecurity and Health Concerns

There are a number of groups in Facebook that have sprung up in response to growing needs. The most popular one, Elder Orphans – Aging Alone, has over 9,000 members! The group serves as a resource for information to its members and also provides some emotional support.

The group conducted an informal survey, as reported by the Washington Post. Of the 500 people who responded, 70% revealed that they had not identified a person who could take care of them when they could no longer care for themselves.

Respondents shared some of their most pressing fears for their future:

25% worried about losing their housing
23% reported having at least one incident in the past year where they lacked enough money to cover basic needs
40% admitted to struggling with depression

The Power of Community

To prepare to be an elder orphan, you must establish a strong, supportive community, way in advance of need. You need to have brutally frank, explicit, frequent conversations with friends, family, and all fiduciaries about your wishes. My husband and I have taken this advice. We live in a Continuing Care Retirement Community, even though we’re both active and in great health. In addition to knowing each others wishes. Our fiduciaries know our wishes. We tell friends of our wishes.

As for the financial concerns… long term care expenses can be manageable and affordable, with the proper planning. The time for planning is Now. You don’t have to navigate your future alone. The resources you or your parents will need are well within your grasp.

When you’re ready to take that first step, click here to receive a free, no-obligation quote for your own long term care insurance policy.

Pro-Act, Don’t Re-Act

September 17, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

At long last, we have a string of incredibly positive articles featuring LTCi news! Writers are really doing their homework and digging into the research. They are reporting on the many benefits of long term care insurance (LTCi).

1. When to Move to Assisted Living

It can feel tricky when to make that decision. At what point do we need to leave traditional independent living and move into an assisted living community? This article in U.S. News & World Report (Aug. 9, 2019) gives some simple indicators to look for:

Has there been a decline in medical conditions? Is there overall weakening in personal strength or more falls happening?
Are personal finances becoming more difficult to manage? Are there more money-related problems?
Is the home no longer kept clean? Is personal hygiene falling off? Are there healthy meals prepared daily?
Are there signs of depression or social isolation?

As we age, it is more common to experience multiple medical conditions at the same time. Degrading vision along with a neurological disease like Parkinson’s creates a formidable challenge in maintaining independent living.

And, as I’ve often discussed, the brain deterioration of dementia or Alzheimer’s disease can result in forgetfulness (taking prescriptions properly), poor decision-making and poor motor skills (prone to dangerous falls).

Have That Conversation EARLY

When that time comes, will we be able to recognize the signs? And with all those signs staring us in the face, will we be willing to accept the decision ahead of us? Roxanne Sorensen, an Aging Life Care specialist, reports that, “Families are making some of the most important decisions of their life while they’re emotional. They don’t have time to think about it. They’re in a crisis situation, and now they’re faced with the decision of where mom or dad is going to be institutionalized for the rest of their life.”

Once again, we’re reminded that the time to make these plans is before the decisions have to be made. When we’re less emotional and more level-headed. Plus, having this conversation early provides extra time to research local community options and make the best possible choice. What a luxury to have the time to join a waiting list for the more popular places instead of taking “whatever we can find”.

2. Assisted Living Improves Quality of Life

The very same week, the same publication printed a separate article on LTCi news. They list some of the great benefits of moving to assisted living. Here’s a sample of offerings from some communities:

DAILY TASKS: This includes support for regular grooming, bathing and preparing healthy meals that support specific dietary needs (diabetes, blood pressure, etc.).
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENT: One of the easiest remedies for social isolation and depression is the feeling of belonging that comes from living in a supportive and active community.
RECREATION: Exercise, movies, walking clubs and reading groups can rapidly fill the calendar of residents.
MEDICATION MANAGEMENT: Assuring prescriptions are taken at the right time, in the correct dosage. Also coordinating timely delivery from local pharmacies.
EDUCATION/CULTURAL PROGRAMS: Guest lecturers, educational curriculum and culturally-themed events adds tremendous richness.
SAFE ENVIRONMENT: Having staff on hand to assist in difficult tasks, living heavy objects or just taking a walk around the grounds.
MEMORY SUPPORT: Daily interaction with therapeutic recreation, under the supervision of trained professionals, from memory classes to art classes.

Of course, these benefits will vary from facility to facility, so be sure to do your research EARLY to find the best match for your needs.

3. Boomers As Caregivers

In more LTCi news, the Baby Boomer generation is facing the hard decisions as they try to manage the long term care needs of their parents. In fact, 9 out of 10 boomers who expect to be caregivers recognize that they’ll be making significant sacrifices in their own lives for the sake of their parents’ care.

These sacrifices range from cuts in personal spending and travel to reducing work hours or completely leaving their careers.

The good news is that the boomer generation is more willing to have the important conversations with their children when it comes to planning for their own care in later life. They recognize how likely it is that they will need long term care. And they are making the necessary plans to prepare themselves and their family for that future.

The article cites a study that concludes, “With one-third of caregivers tapping into their nest eggs to pay for health care expenses, it’s vital that payment planning for future caregiving is considered and prioritized in equal measure.”

Striking Gold With LTCi News

Reading these 3 recent articles completely align with the themes that drive my passion for my work in long term care insurance. I believe it’s better to stay ahead of problems. The time to act is when “the writing is on the wall”, not when the wall is crumbling down around you.

I know how important it is to have these difficult conversations with our loved ones (and ourselves!). It is my mission to support people in creating the best possible environment in their later years. One of quality living, dignity and independence.

To begin, click here to receive your free no-obligation quote for your own LTCi policy.

Indecision Paralysis Can Be Very Expensive

August 20, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

I had a phone conversation with a 62-year old woman I’ll call Margaret who was interested in learning more about long term care insurance (LTCi). She still works full-time, and her “off hours” are completely dedicated to caring for her husband who suffers from Alzheimer’s disease. She wanted to learn about LTCi costs and how it works.

In our chat, Margaret quickly revealed some details about her own health: a long-time smoker and her frail stature. She described the daily demands of her time and energy, caring for her husband after putting in a full day at her job. I could feel the weight of her words as she shared her concerns with me.

For now, her husband is able to stay home unsupervised while she works. Margaret understands that this is only temporary, as her husband’s condition continues to decline. And she worries that if he should fall during the day, it could result in very dangerous, if not fatal, injury.

Margaret’s nights and weekends are consumed with caring for her husband. She has no social life outside of the home. And she is keenly aware that the day is coming when she can no longer leave her husband unsupervised.

Will she have to

Hire a professional caregiver?
Move her husband into a facility, separating them for the first time in their 40+ year marriage?
Leave her job?

Discussing LTCi Costs

When Margaret and I met, we discussed the current quality of her life. The weight of her responsibility was really taking its toll on her. And it served as her motivation to shield her son from taking on this same role if she ever became unable to care for herself.

Margaret understands better than most the important value of buying LTC insurance.

We talked about the fact that if her husband had an LTCi policy, they both would be benefiting socially, economically, medically, and emotionally. For example, there could be a caregiver in their home, giving her peace of mind while she worked and easing her responsibilities when she came home.

She desired these options for her son so he wouldn’t have to sacrifice so much of his life to take care of her in the later years. We also talked about the quality of life for Margaret, having access to a variety of lifestyle choices and restoring dignity to her days.

Even Knowing All the Facts

Margaret chose not to proceed with her LTCi application. Maybe “chose” is the wrong word. What really happened is that she was paralyzed with indecision. Even though she understood the importance of long term care insurance and saw she could manage the LTCi premiums, she was unable to make that next step. I wish I did not see this as often as I do.

Unfortunately, if Margaret needs long-term care (LTC), she and her son will end up paying a higher price in time, energy, quality of life, and stress.

You don’t have to be caught by surprise, like a deer in the headlights. Take that first, proactive step to protect you and your family. Click here to receive your free no-obligation quote for your own LTCi policy.

Lady Astor Was a Victim of Brain Loss and Elder Abuse

August 12, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

Lady Brooke Astor was a beloved philanthropist of New York’s high society. She died in 2007, leaving an estate valued at $185 million. Unfortunately, Alzheimer’s disease stole her later years. As a result, she fell victim to devastating elder abuse from her son, Anthony Astor.

Taking advantage of her condition, he convinced her she was going broke. He sold valuable pieces from her art collection and funneled nearly $1 million into his personal projects. He also reduced her care, resulting in severe neglect. She spent her days in a filthy nightgown. Her luxury apartment fell into ruin.

Money Is No Protection Against Elder Abuse

Lady Astor’s grandson, Philip Marshall, brought charges against his father, Anthony Astor, for his abusive acts. After the 6-month trial, investigations revealed that Anthony had, indeed, stolen $60 million from his mother’s estate. With her impaired mental abilities, it was easy to persuade his mother to make periodic, favorable adjustments to her will.

As a result of these investigations, Philip Marshall has become an outspoken advocate in the fight against elder abuse. He remarked, “When I was trying to protect my grandmother, I thought the financial exploitation was the least of the problems. It ended up finances were the key.”

His organization, Beyond Brooke, is dedicated to empower and educate seniors to help them protect themselves from the financial abuse his grandmother suffered. Marshall’s biggest piece of advice?

“It’s back to engaging in relationships and making sure you’ve got people in your life who will watch your back. It sometimes takes just one person or three or five people in your life who are checking in—and cultivating those relationships.”

Have the Conversation

As Philip Marshall recommends, it’s important to have these discussions to properly plan for care. Lady Astor’s family and advisors failed to protect her. While your own estate may only be a fraction of her original value, the consequences of neglect cross all social and economic borders.

An easy starting point is to research options through long term care insurance (LTCi) so your needs are properly addressed. Click here to receive your free no-obligation quote on your own LTCi policy.

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