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The High Cost of Avoidance and Denial

January 20, 2020 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

Over the years, I’ve written multiple blogs posts about the importance of creating a solid long term care plan to address your late life wishes. Make the plan and share it with your family. And yet, time after time, I read horror stories about unnecessary suffering, neglect and even death because they never had “the conversation”. As if avoiding this important discussion gives them some artificial sense of control and safety. There is a cost of avoidance and it’s very high.

“I’d rather die than talk about this.”

The truth is that once chronic health problems arise, your ability to make good decisions often decreases. This is partly because your brain may have reduced cognitive powers. And also because making good choices becomes harder when you’re feeling panicked with fewer options. It’s really hard to see the big picture when it feels like your world is getting smaller.

Mr. & Mrs. Shaver Paid the Cost of Avoidance

As reported in the New York Times (Dec 2019), their love story is the thing movies are made of. A romantic courtship and a loving marriage of 60 years. Unfortunately, his wife starting showing signs of dementia. Even though his children encouraged hiring home care help, Mr. Shaver refused any discussion. “Mind your own business. I’m taking care of it.”

He had ample savings for their retirement, so we know the cost of hiring help was not the issue. As the sole caregiver to his wife, he was obviously aware of her declining state of mind. However, he was unwilling to make any move that would improve their environment.

It must have broken his heart to see the love of his life disappear from his life. She no longer recognized him or their daughters. One day, while she was asleep, her loving husband laid down in bed next to her and shot his wife. And then shot himself.

The Time to Plan is Now

I’ve been helping people create these plans for 30 years. One thing I’ve learned is that having such a plan in place provides a peace of mind and increases quality of living. Without the comfort of a strategy, the fear of aging only grows over the years. As you age, the concerns over injury (falling in the shower, tripping over furniture, dizziness from medications) can contribute to mounting fears.

Once the fear takes hold, it becomes harder to make clear and thoughtful decisions. I’ve done several blogs on age-related brain loss and cognitive decline.

For most of us, whether we’re middle class or more affluent, owning long term care insurance (LTCi) is critical for ensuring dignity, options, and access to quality long term care. But it’s not enough. You must have ongoing, difficult conversations with your family so everyone understands the outcome you desire.

Click here to receive a free, no-obligation quote for your own LTCi coverage. Your family will thank you.

Your Wealth Won’t Protect You From Fraud and Financial Abuse

July 15, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

Many people have a fond place in their hearts for the art of Peter Max. A symbol of the hippie counterculture in the 1960s and 1970s, Max’s work holds prized locations on the walls of collectors around the world. Now in his later years, Peter Max has fallen victim to dementia. His wealth nor his notoriety can protect him from the financially abusive situation he has landed in.

The courts are still sorting out the details of this twisted tale. Including lots of finger-pointing between his second wife, Mary Max (who died from suicide in June 2019), his son, Adam, and his daughter, Libra, along with the various lawyers, agents and guardians who were supposedly protecting Peter Max and his valuable business.

His Wealth Declined With His Health

The current state of Max’s condition is revealed in this article in the New York Times (May 28, 2019). The writer describes his lavish lifestyle and the popularity of his artwork. She also reports on the financial losses of his business and the questionable source of it’s latest recovery.

In 2012, Max’s health had rapidly declined and the dementia had taken a firm hold. Max was unable to work and finances suffered. The business, ALP Inc., defaulted on $5.4 million in bank loans. In exchange for half of his ownership in ALP, Max hired Lawrence Moscowitz, an insurance agent, to help breathe new life into the failing company. Moscowitz, in turn, appealed to Max’s estranged son, Adam, to actively manage the daily operations.

The revived business plan includes the hiring of “an expanding cast of artists to mimic Mr. Max’s more commercial work. In the acrylic-spattered space above the Chinese restaurant, according to seven people who have seen it, there were as many as 18 assistant painters…”

In six years, ALP transitioned from near-bankruptcy to generating over $93 million in sales. This is largely due to the aggressive exploitation of Peter Max’s reputation and his artistic style being sold as originals to unsuspecting consumers.

Where Was His Plan?

Peter Max’s business is now out of his hands, both artistically and financially. His family dynamics have deteriorated with the fight for guardianship between his wife and his children. Much of this could have been avoided by some thoughtful, advance planning and documentation. He could easily have provided for a formal succession plan. He could have selected his own guardian to look out for his interests in his later years.

Wealth is no protection against this type of failure. Oftentimes, the wealth only makes the fall more newsworthy. Stories about people protected from future illness by their long term care planning just don’t make the news.

You can take steps today to protect your future quality of life. Click here to receive your free, no-obligation quote for long term care insurance.

Brain Decline + Failure to Communicate = Failure Formula

July 1, 2019 by Honey Leveen Leave a Comment

If you are a regular reader of my weekly blog posts, you’ll notice the recurring theme of Brain Loss. While the condition isn’t avoidable, many of the resulting consequences can be prevented. It just takes a little planning and some open conversations. Otherwise, you are building a path to failure.

Here’s an email I recently received from a concerned service provider:

“Hi Honey,

You have been so helpful in the past and I always think of you when a question about LTC comes up!

We have a former patient who just moved to New York to be closer to her daughter. She is 91 years old and has dementia. She has had a LTC policy, but without her daughter knowing, she let her policy lapse. The LTC insurance company is asking for documentation of her mental status. Our doctor only saw her for general medical ailments and never formally evaluated her memory, so we have no test scores to provide. He wrote a letter of incapacity but the insurance company is not accepting that.

This woman stands to lose hundreds of thousands of dollars of coverage. Do you have any suggestions for them?”

I receive emails and distressed phone calls like this too often and they are heartbreaking. The families reaching out to me are in a state of emergency and dealing with unbelievable levels of stress. A lot of this stress is a result of failure to plan properly.

I’m assuming that the mother’s health has seriously declined, since the family had her moved at 91 years old to a new state. She like has, at minimum, mid-stage dementia. This means her dementia is at a point where it’s obvious and she needs lots of supervision.

Avoiding the Preventable Failure

Fortunately, most long term care insurance (LTCi) policies now include language allowing policyholders to reinstate their coverage and get their claim paid within 6 months of policy lapse. If she’s lucky, the mother qualifies for reinstatement and her claims can be paid.

The mother will need to have neurological testing to prove her dementia. Once proven, her choice to cancel her coverage could be reversed, as she was not mentally capable of making this serious decision.

Some Reasonable Questions

Does the daughter have a copy of her mother’s LTCi policy? When monitoring the health and care of our parents, it is critical to have the documentation and be familiar with the terms. Understand what options are available before you need to use them
If the policy lapsed from nonpayment, does the insurance company know to automatically notify the daughter? This is a standard part of every LTCi application. Pay attention and remember to complete it. There is good news: this appointment can be added or changed at any time, as long as the policy is in good standing.
Did the family ever have the conversation with their mother about what kind of care she wanted to receive once she was unable to make these decisions on her own?

This tragedy occurred because of the family’s failure to explore and document their mother’s wishes and desires ahead of time, in a frank manner.

Take a moment to explore how you can plan for an easier future for yourself or someone you love. Click here to receive your free, no-obligation quote for long term care insurance.

Actress, Director Penny Marshall Also A Victim of Brain Loss

June 24, 2019 by Honey Leveen 1 Comment

I’ve been writing a lot lately on the devastating (and often silent) effects of Brain Loss that often strike in our later years. The Journals of Gerontology published the results of a study on age-related brain changes and how these changes can leave the subject vulnerable to financial exploitation. According to their findings, “Approximately 1 in 20 adults can be expected to experience some form of financial exploitation past the age of 60, an incidence rate eclipsing many age-related diseases.” This financial exploitation is a result of impaired financial judgment. Which brings us to the final years of the life of Penny Marshall.

Penny Marshall Was Unprotected

Beloved actress and director, Penny Marshall, died in 2018, from complications from diabetes. It is also known that she had a bout with lung cancer which ultimately metastasized in her brain. Fortunately, both the lung and brain cancer went into remission after 2 years of treatment.

In a recent interview, Anjelica Huston shared about her friendship with Marshall, describing the peculiar way the director spent her nights. “Her rooms were freezing. Like air-conditioned, way up. She stayed up all night, followed QVC for beanbag dolls and stuff. She had this collection of sports memorabilia. She had a sort of museum in her basement full of signed baseballs and Lakers shirts. I just couldn’t relate. And also, frankly, she took a lot of coke.”

It became too much for Huston and she stopped visiting her friend.

Who Will Watch Out For You?

Penny Marshall’s final years contains some indications of erratic spending habits and other unusual behavior. There were no controls in place to protect her from herself or to ensure that she was receiving the best possible medical care to properly manage her diabetes.

I will continue to beat the drum, reminding you how important it is to have a clear plan in place that provides for your care and protects your interests. It may be difficult to acknowledge your future need for assistance, but denying the liklihood doesn’t improve your odds. In fact, it actually increases your risk.

The time to make these plans is NOW, while you are still thinking clearly. Penny Marshall failed to plan and, by default, planned to fail.

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